Welcoming Changes: My TOP Three Goals for the Second Half of 2011

It’s been almost a year now since I left my job and embraced full-time motherhood. The past year had its ups and downs for both my husband and myself, with the ups in being just having ALL the time in our hands to enjoy our little boy. We did things we simply would not be able to do had we not left our jobs back in New Jersey (move to Arizona, travel to the Philippines and stay for two-and-a-half months, have mini getaways in between).

The downside of our super extended vacation, or now more aptly, staycation, is that we’ve had to put one of our biggest (if not THE biggest) dreams on hold, and that is buying our own home. For the past year we’ve been living at my parents‘, enjoying the comforts of having Miguel’s grandparents in the same house, uncles and aunties nearby (if not also in the same house), and re-strengthening family bonds that got weakened by the distance of living in two different (and VERY FAR from each other) states. On the plus side, we’ve managed to live comfortably by having one-third less finances than we used to have back in Jersey, with no rent and utilities to pay for aside from what we are contributing to my parents now monthly to help with the upkeep of the house.

But Terrence and I are slowly but surely wanting our lives back. Not necessarily the life before parenthood and Miguel. It’s more the life of having one’s own place…the life where you get to buy practical goods and unnecessary stuff for your home, decorate every room to your liking, and have a place for everything you own. The life where you get to be free to move about–no holds barred–and dictate the rules (and non-rules) of your own castle. The life of being grown-ups.

My parents have been more than welcoming and supportive to the three of us the past year. In many ways our move came at the right time, as we were able to help each other out in the brutal economy of 2010. But now that (almost) a year has passed since our move, it’s time to think about that dream again.

Here are my goals on how to achieve IT…

GOAL #1: Get my real estate license. As cook-y as it sounds, with the housing market being the way it is (or WAS), this has been in the back of my mind ever since BEFORE we moved to Arizona. My dad is a real estate agent, and he has the ability to work from home AND make as little or as much money as he wants. As a Mom, those two factors alone are motivating enough for me. I like the idea of being able to stay at home and be near Miguel while I work, and also not have to work for anyone else but my clients.

GOAL #2: Get driving. Close family and friends know this: I am terrified of driving. I’ve blamed it for many years on my parents’ lack of motivation to push me to drive when I got my driving permit back in high school, their over-protectiveness winning over encouraging me to be a master of this life skill (because think about it really…you can’t do anything if you don’t drive). And then there was this accident I was in eons ago. With an ex. It wasn’t terrible in the larger scheme of things. The car that hit us got the bulk of the damage. But it could have been a LOT worse…with the vehicle we were in ending up on the other side of the road, facing on-coming traffic. In my young(er) years I got lucky enough having my Dad (and a total of three boyfriends…lucky #3 of whom became my husband) willing to drive me around wherever I needed to go. Having always lived near where there was public transportation also helped–because knowing how to get around using public transportation is also a life skill, and would I be doomed if I didn’t know how to ride the trains, buses and subways in the NYC metro area? Yup, probably.

Goal #3: Get us our first home! This would only be possible, of course, once I achieve Goals #1 and #2. Obviously I have to work hard at being either a real estate agent or a property manager (or both). And obviously I would need to drive. Because what’s the sense in getting a real estate license if I can’t even drive myself and my clients around?? (For the record, I have a driver’s license. I DO know how to drive. I just don’t like to.)

Goal #3 would also not be possible, of course, without Terrence’s help. Our plan for the immediate six months is for him to be the full-time stay-at-home parent, while I work on getting my foot in the real estate door. He would continue to look for possible full-time/part-time jobs out there whenever he can, but our priority for him would be taking care of little Miggz while I become (oh yeah!) the breadwinner (which I’m sure they would just be both thrilled about).

So there…my THREE goals for the rest of the year. Sounds easy-peazy-lemon-squeazy, doesn’t it? (Yeah right.)

Meanwhile, I’ve been curbing my cravings for interior decorating for quite a while. So I instead started a scrapbook with plans for our future home.

Our New Home Vision Book. I created it to help keep us on track with what we'd like to have in our future dream home. I can NOT wait to have an actual photo in that blank frame...

I know it will be a challenge (even a long shot) to get there, especially achieving Goal #3. But I have FAITH (and a whole lot of secret super skills) that I know will get us there.


2 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. larkinschristina
    Jul 02, 2011 @ 17:40:46

    You GO GIRL!! I believe once you become a mother you can do anything so your 3 goals will soon be replaced with bigger and better ones. I think its awesome you are going to take charge of your life and become a driver. Once you get over your fear you will take mini trips all over Arizona. I can picture you driving off into the sunset! Good Luck


    • newmamma
      Jul 03, 2011 @ 17:35:46

      Thank YOU so much for stopping by and leaving this very encouraging comment! That’s one of my motivations for driving also…to be able to take our little one around on mini trips (even if said mini trips just has to be to the local coffee shop or public library). The heat right now is not helping though, but I AM determined! Thanks again…

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